Every week, we’re participating in #totalhonestytuesday, sharing the things we’d usually keep off of social media, and giving a little more insight into our real (and very un-perfect) lives. Hopefully, in doing this, we can all feel a little less pressure to appear a certain way online, and remember that everyone around us is much more than just the highlight reel we normally see.
And every Wednesday, we’re collecting stories shared on the hashtag here, so we can read them together and start our mid-week mornings with a little honesty.
#confession inspired by @faganchelsea & #totalhonestytuesday – my maintenance required light has been on for almost 3 wks. I know it is for an oil change & tire rotation, but there are other things I need/want to do before i get my car taken care. This is a major problem considering I commute around 500 miles/week for work. | 167/365
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This is probably my most honest, most vulnerable post thus far. I love eating local cuisine and I love Spanish food but in the midst of serious cramps and my first ~aunt flow~ of the trip, I was craving something comfortable and familiar and I just could not eat another piece of ham. Don't judge me. Actually go ahead, I'm judging me. 😂 (But this McDonald's is playing Kate Nash and that's kinda redeeming.) #totalhonestytuesday
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For my #totalhonestytuesday post this week, I'm sharing a view of my apartment I always try to avoid when I'm taking photos. It's nearly noon and my living room is dark and sad and has a lamp going in the corner, because I live in a railroad apartment with absolutely TERRIBLE lighting. I am constantly browsing decor blogs of airy, light, window-filled living spaces and dreaming of the day I can move. I've grown to hate my apartment, because having very little natural light is simply depressing. I will eventually be in a space I really love, but until then, I'll keep posting photos of only the really sunny corners and make do with what I have.
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The brilliant and inspirational @faganchelsea started a new hashtag last week, #totalhonestytuesday – about which she said, "I can say with certainty that sharing even one element of my life that I would normally deem “not flattering,” and keep off of my public profile, has felt like a weight lifted off of my shoulders… I still, like everyone else, feel that draw to keep a happy social media presence. And it only ends up making me more miserable. Hopefully, in being honest with one another about the fact that we aren’t perfect — no matter how well-photographed our lives are — we will feel more free to live better, and to be true to ourselves, because we will understand that there is no one we need to keep up with." In that spirit, my #totalhonestytuesday is that today, i'm running on three hours of sleep, four shots of espresso, and a sense of commitment. i struggled with insomnia in college, but have had relatively healthy sleep habits since graduating and transitioning into the (often exhausting) working world. last night, however, i got carried away being social and "not feeling tired," accidentally staying up past midnight when i knew i had to be up at 4am to get to my second job. today's a thirteen-hour workday for me, and starting that on a sleep deficit isn't "cool" or "badass" or "hardcore" like working through sleep deprivation felt in college. it's just dumb and unhealthy.
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In honor of @faganchelsea's #totalhonestytuesday, here's a photo of the bag I've been living out of since last Wednesday. I'd love to act like I'm a chic traveler, but I'm not. I messed up the dates of a trip recently and ended up having to stay on a friend's couch, and I barely had enough money or clothes to last me. Sometimes Instagram feels like an endless stream of everyone else's trips and successes, but that's all surface shit. Couch surfing can be a struggle as ugly as the bags under my eyes and sad numbers in my bank account indicate. Trust. ❤️
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As part of @faganchelsea's #totalhonestytuesday I will tell you this: today I am unshowered and sad. I cried myself to sleep last night because… Because my heart is heavy. I miss somebody in a very new, confusing way, that I don't know how to navigate. I'm figuring it out, and today my puffy eyes are testament to that.
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Talking about work from home life on The Financial Diet today, so here's my #totalhonestytuesday tribute: What we make working from home look like, versus what it actually looks like. (That "standing desk" is made from moving boxes I still haven't gotten rid and the neighbor's blaring music is not pictured here.)
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Okay this is scary but @faganchelsea started #totalhonestytuesday and I respect/admire her personal brand a LOT so I'm going for it. I am doing really poorly in studying for the bar. Those are percentile rankings and you can see that not only am I in the bottom half, I'm actually in the bottom quarter for some of these. And all those blue highlighter marks? Incomplete practice essays. I know all of my newly graduated law school peers are feeling stressed at the moment but they are so smart and hardworking that I know they'll pass, but I'm actually terrified that I won't because I keep getting distracted and just can't focus. Hopefully this embarrassing knowledge being out there in the world will get my ass in gear. Don't judge me too harshly.
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It's #totalhonestytuesday again. This week I'm trying to make my bedroom an organized and comfortable place to be, which means weeding out a LOT of clutter. As a crafting addict, I have exponentially more junk than I would if I were a normal person… so this is just a really unpleasant job. Seeing all of my yarn, needles, and half-finished projects everywhere also reminds me of how much money I've spent on all of it, which is super unpleasant to think about. Yes, much of it can be counted as an investment in my business, but that doesn't mean I can spend as much as I want on luxury alpaca yarn all the time. It's neither financially smart nor practical for my current living situation with such limited space. I dream of the day when I have my own house where I can have pretty shelves for my craft supplies instead of unsightly, messy bins. And also a steady income to fund my addiction. 😉
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#totalhonestytuesday I go through phases of trying to give up Diet Coke bc it is bad in many ways. But it's damn hard to stick to. Here's my current bag situ. Please note the recently purchased Diet Cole bottle nestled in w my water bottle. I have no excuses.
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in honor of #totalhonestytuesday i'm posting a glimpse inside the thing i carry around all day, which is also a sorry excuse for a purse. i'm naturally very messy, clumsy and perpetually late. at 23, i'm starting to realize these traits aren't cute anymore. i do a good job of convincing myself that i absolutely NEED the items i lug around with me all day, even though i usually only touch a few of them. that little red box is a first aid kit because YOU NEVER KNOW when disaster might strike & i can't think of a good excuse for that rubber band being stuck in the brush. here's to a conscious effort to getting organized & thank you @faganchelsea for helping all of us embrace the mess in the meantime.
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In honor of #totalhonestytuesday: the top row is a sampling of the books on my bookshelf. They make me appear smart and intellectual and interesting to my occasional guests (although, tbf, I love Jane Austen and have read those books, it's the rest of the shelves that are big fat fakes). The bottom row is what's on my kindle, and what I actually enjoy reading 95% of the time.
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#totalhonestytuesday I blew a whole paycheck's worth of funmoney on the complete set of #harrypotter #audiobook because I missed #summervacation using @bookriot #readharder challenge as the excuse. I've just finished #sorcerersstone aka #philosphersstone
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ok i actually really like the idea of the #totalhonestytuesday hashtag created by @faganchelsea so here it goes: i took a break from carrying around cool books with cool titles like "governing by debt" and "the agony of power" and started reading this. it makes me feel less cool for a few reasons – from the cover design to the title to the fact that i got this book on zen buddhism from my mom (parents are so lame). so, it really isnt doing much for my aesthetic. but to be totally honest, ive been trying to cultivate some form of mindfulness for the past six months without giving it that precise name. turns out your perceptions and emotions are important to explore but they can also be a prison, guys. be careful out there!
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This post is inspired by @faganchelsea #totalhonestytuesday and the recent podcast from @johngreenwritesbooks and @hankgreen. Last fall I was diagnosed with an ulcerative skin disorder. Nurses and doctors kept telling me I was lucky it was the fall/winter so I could cover up the ulcers and their resulting scars. While that may have been true at the time, seasons change (as they tend to do) and I still have scars and the occasional flare up. I choose to wear shorts and sundresses regardless. I do this not only because it's June and it's hot, but because we're all dealing with our own things. I hope that if we see each other's scars a little more often, we might realize that no one's life is picture perfect.
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My #totalhonestytuesday: I've taken this gelato out of the freezer and put it back in twice tonight, because each time, I took it out in order to eat my feelings. Probably going to have some tonight, but without binging. Hashtag inspiration: @faganchelsea
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Share your own honesty next week, and join the conversation.